---- D O E S T H I S S O U N D F A M I L I A R ? ----
In her own words.
Maybe in yours, too.
The minute anyone pulls away, I immediately
think I have done something wrong.
I have been over-performing to gain love and attention.
I put my own needs last. My needs don’t matter.
I say yes when I mean no - and resentment builds.
I am on edge most of the time, expecting
something bad to happen.
I want a state of mind that is different from survival mode, anger or fear.
If you recognised yourself in any of those words, you are in the rightplace.
--- ABOUT ME ---
I help women who grew up
with distant mothers, to stop doubting themselves and trying to keep everyone
happy.
GOSIA MIERNIK Online | English & Polish
I'm Gosia. I work one-to-one online with women in the UK, Europe, and beyond.
Most of the women I work with are creatives, academics, business owners, spiritual teachers, and community workers. Women who are thoughtful, capable, and often remarkable at holding others together. They have already done some therapy. And yet — they are still bracing. Still tired. Still saying yes when they mean no.
That gap — between knowing and feeling — is where I work. A slower, more embodied meeting with the parts of you that have been holding it all. Would you like to know more about me and my experience? Click here
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--- T H E M O T H E R W O U N D ---
What if it was never
about earning love?
Your mother may have been physically there, but
emotionally somewhere else. She may have been close and tumultuous — sometimes loving, sometimes cold.
She may have shamed you for crying or asked you to be the one who managed her feelings.
You learned very early to overperform to gain love and attention. You linked your performance to your ability to earn and keep love.
You became responsible for keeping her happy, managing her emotions — the fiercest friend, the one who always shows up.
You grew up. You became capable. And the part of you that learned all of this is still running it — in your friendships, your work, your relationship with yourself - with body, self-worth.
You can see the pattern clearly. You cannot yet break free of it on your own.
--- In THEIR OWN WORDS ---
Real people, real change
Four arrivals, more or
less, in a long
conversation.
--- H O W T H E W O R K U N F O L D S
i.
A first conversation
A free 30 minutes on Zoom. You tell me a little about what is bringing you in, whatever words feel natural. I tell you how I work. We see if it feels right.
Nothing is decided in that conversation. It is simply a beginning.
ii.
A beginning
If it feels right, we set a regular weekly 50-minute one-to-one online time.
The first sessions are about getting to know each other.
iii.
The work
Patterns become visible. We look at them — not to judge them, but to understand what they have been protecting. Much of this work happens in the emotional body, not just the thinking mind.
We meet the younger parts of you — the ones who learned certain things very early — and we work to strengthen the adult who is here now. The one who no longer needs to carry it the way she once did.
iv.
An ending, in time
When something has shifted, we end together, on purpose. Endings
are part of the work, not the absence of it.
--- J O U R N A L ---
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